Writing thank-you notes is not just good manners. It can have a strong psychological effect for both the sender and receiver, suggests research published in the September 2018 issue of Psychological Science.
While most people consider showing an expression of gratitude a nice gesture, many people struggle to do it. To find out why, researchers from the University of Texas asked 334 people to write a letter of gratitude to someone who’d done something nice for them and then to guess the recipient’s reaction in several categories.
For instance: Would they feel surprised and happy to receive the letter? Would reading the compliments make them feel awkward? Would the gesture affect their overall mood? The researchers then followed up with the recipients to find out their actual reactions.
Not surprisingly, the letter writers felt more positive afterward. However, they overestimated how awkward the recipients would feel receiving their letter and underestimated how positive it would make them feel. This may explain why more people don’t engage in expressions of gratitude, according to the researchers. They suggest that understanding the gesture’s impact may help people do it more often. So take the time to write and send a well-deserved thank you note. It will be good for both of you.
Below are spiritual recipe for health and wellness: Matthew E. McLaren
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 NIV
I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love. Ephesians 3:16-17 NIV
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13 NIV
Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Romans 12:9 NIV
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:2 NIV
Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me. Isaiah 49:15-16 NIV
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word. Ephesians 5:25-26 NIV
My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. John 15:12 NIV
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10 NIV
May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance. 2 Thessalonians 3:5 NIV
No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. 1 John 4:12 NIV
Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:13 NIV
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