An outlook better than optimism?

Optimism feels good. The expectation that positive things will happen is associated with happiness and better health, including fewer heart attacks and a lower risk for premature death. Pessimism, on the other hand, feels bad; it makes you depressed or anxious and keeps the fight-or-flight system activated, triggering chronic inflammation (which is linked to many diseases).

You might think the best way to improve your well-being is to cultivate an optimistic outlook. Think again. “Better than cultivating an artificial optimism is to see the situation and the world realistically,” says Ronald Siegel, an assistant professor of psychology, part-time, at Harvard Medical School and medical editor of the Harvard Special Health Report Positive Psychology.

Are you fooling yourself?

Siegel says always assuming either an optimistic or pessimistic view of a situation is to ignore reality.

“If you’re pessimistic, your mind defaults to the fantasy that something horrible could happen. You’re filtering out the good data. If you’re optimistic, you’re filtering out the data that look bad for what you desire, and you’re fooling yourself,” Siegel says.

Instead of becoming attached to a fantasy of positive or negative outcomes, Siegel suggests that you focus on reality, and your resilience in facing reality.

“Have the faith in yourself that you’ll be able to rise to the occasion and deal with whatever comes your way, whether it’s good or bad fortune,” Siegel says. It’s much more robust for well-being than deluding yourself into thinking things will always turn out well, because sometimes they don’t.”

Finding the faith

The following steps can help you gain the confidence to cope with uncertainty.

Take refuge in the present moment. Remember that the future doesn’t exist yet; we only have thoughts about it. “Bring attention to the present moment: the sun is shining, the trees have lost their leaves, you can walk. Bring your attention to what’s here right now,” advises Siegel. “That’s not deluding yourself, that’s reality.” (See “Becoming more mindful.”)

Forge safe social connections. Having a good support system of friends and family helps us cope with life’s ups and downs. “Rather than deluding ourselves with optimism or pessimism, we can cultivate relationships so that when good things happen, we have people to celebrate with, and when bad things happen, we can comfort each other,” Siegel says. How can you build relationships during a pandemic? Siegel advises joining online groups and connecting with people via video or phone calls.

Identify with something larger than yourself. Broaden your connection to all of life: humanity, nature, the planet. “When you identify with something much more enduring than a current situation, you get beyond the need to cling to one particular outcome,” Siegel says. How do you connect to something larger? It can be through religion or simply history. “Bad things have happened throughout history, yet life has endured and it will continue to endure,” Siegel reminds us.

Find meaning in life. The final pathway to having faith to cope with uncertainty is finding meaning in life — something that matters to you. The source of meaning is different for everyone, and it changes throughout life. Think of it as what gets you out of bed in the morning. “It could be art that you create, religion, a relationship, acts of service, or projects you’re working on. Whatever it is that matters, pursue it,” Siegel says. “Find ways to be engaged in meaningful activities.”

Becoming more mindfulMindfulness brings your attention to the present moment. To try a mindfulness exercise, sit quietly, close your eyes, and focus on your breathing for a few minutes.Slowly begin to widen your focus. Become aware of sounds, sensations, and ideas. Allow each thought or sensation to pass without judging it as good or bad.If your mind starts to race, return your focus to your breathing. Then expand your awareness again. Try to sustain this awareness for longer periods each time you try this exercise.Free, guided mindfulness exercises from Harvard psychologist Ronald Siegel are available online at


It takes time to break old habits, and it’s okay if it’s hard to make a change and give up optimistic or pessimistic thinking. But even a little shift in your approach will improve your well-being. “We’ll all do better,” Siegel says, “if we live as though reality were real instead of being shocked by it.”

Bible verses for today’s meditation and inspiration: Matthew E. McLaren’

Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. Jeremiah 29:12 NIV

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Romans 12:12 NIV

And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Matthew 6:7 NIV

The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. Psalm 145:18 NIV

‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’ Jeremiah 33:3 NIV

“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:20 NIV

 Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. Hebrews 4:16 NIV

who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. Matthew 6:6 NIV

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