It’s said that the holidays are an idealistic time to be argumentative. They are supposed to be happy and delightful, filled with affection, playfulness, and laughter, and filled with small glimmering lights that make the cheer amplified. Regrettably, celebrating holidays can make for regrettable arguments between family and friends when the mood is right. But you do not have to get drawn into heated debates if you stay alert for the early warning signs of a confrontation. “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.”
In many aspects, we’re prepared for holiday arguments. “It can be stressful to purchase gifts. We have financial concerns about the weather. Days are shorter. We attempt to juggle work and get time off,” The holidays can also bring up past events or uncomfortable realities, such as a lack of family support.
Love is patient, kind, does not envy or boast, is not rude nor self-seeking, not easily angered, does not keep a record of wrongs, does not delight in evil, and loves the truth; it protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. Love never fails.
We have much trouble dealing with complicated feelings during the holidays, expressing ourselves clearly, or being honest. These things happen due to our increased emotionality during the holidays. When we are exposed to strong emotions, it impacts the way we think and act. This causes us to be defensive and to express ourselves in ways that could lead to conflict.
Emotions are often challenging to control during heated moments, but a strategic plan can help you prevent arguments or react appropriately to keep a volatile situation under control. Galatians 5:22-23 – But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; Against these things, there is no law.
If you’re hosting the event, tell your attendees when the party is concluding. If you attend the celebration, inform the host of when you’ll leave. “Stick to your itinerary, even if you have a good time, so that the host can end on a high note,”
Ask someone you look up to give you a sign if something in a discussion turns confrontational or dangerous. Stopping this can help you separate yourself from the situation. Think about what times and how you will take a break during a gathering to decide what your sentiments are during it. By exploiting specific opportunities, you can keep an eye on your emotions.
These may help decrease opportunities for conflict. Romans 8:38-39 echoes that God’s love is not dependent on our life or nonexistence but originates from Christ Jesus. If you know a loved one will have concerns, establish a response beforehand and practice it.
He suggests using a version of the following statements: “I prefer your point of view, but this topic deals too much with something that we feel strongly about.” “I care about you, but I’m starting to feel distressed, and the conversation isn’t worth continuing.” It’s wise not to answer inquiries you don’t want to. Change the subject. Move the focus back onto the other person and ask how they’re doing. If one is angry with you, that suggests that they care about what you think. Remember that and remain calm as you speak.
The goal is to promote goodwill, not resolve painful matters. “It’s a happy time designed so that everyone feels well,” says the Bible, which states that God is love (1 John 4:8). God’s will is for love to change the world because it is from His love and is present everywhere.
Bible verses for today’s meditation and inspiration: Matthew E. McLaren
Suppose you find fifty righteous people living there in the city—will you still sweep it away and not spare it for their sakes? (Genesis 18:24) And the Lord replied, “If I find fifty righteous people in Sodom, I will spare the entire city for their sake.” (Genesis 18:26)
And be sure to say, ‘Look, your servant Jacob is right behind us.’” Jacob thought, “I will try to appease him by sending gifts ahead of me. When I see him in person, perhaps he will be friendly to me.” (Genesis 32:20)
to say to you: ‘Please forgive your brothers for the great wrong they did to you—for their sin in treating you so cruelly.’ So we, the servants of the God of your father, beg you to forgive our sin.” When Joseph received the message, he broke down and wept. (Genesis 50:17)
“Forgive my sin, just this once, and plead with the Lord your God to take away this death from me.” (Exodus 10:17)
Pay close attention to him, and obey his instructions. Do not rebel against him, for he is my representative, and he will not forgive your rebellion. (Exodus 23:21)
Moses Intercedes for Israel The next day Moses said to the people, “You have committed a terrible sin, but I will go back up to the Lord on the mountain. Perhaps I will be able to obtain forgiveness for your sin.” (Exodus 32:30) So Moses returned to the Lord and said, “Oh, what a terrible sin these people have committed. They have made gods of gold for themselves. (Exodus 32:31) But now, if you will only forgive their sin—but if not, erase my name from the record you have written!” (Exodus 32:32)
The Lord passed in front of Moses, calling out, “Yahweh! The Lord! The God of compassion and mercy! I am slow to anger and filled with unfailing love and faithfulness. (Exodus 34:6) I lavish unfailing love to a thousand generations. I forgive iniquity, rebellion, and sin. But I do not excuse the guilty. I lay the sins of the parents upon their children and grandchildren; the entire family is affected— even children in the third and fourth generations.” (Exodus 34:7)
And he said, “O Lord, if it is true that I have found favor with you, then please travel with us. Yes, this is a stubborn and rebellious people, but please forgive our iniquity and our sins. Claim us as your own special possession.” (Exodus 34:9)
just as he does with the bull offered as a sin offering for the high priest. Through this process, the priest will purify the people, making them right with the Lord, and they will be forgiven. (Leviticus 4:20) Then he must burn all the goat’s fat on the altar, just as he does with the peace offering. Through this process, the priest will purify the leader from his sin, making him right with the Lord, and he will be forgiven. (Leviticus 4:26)
Then he must remove all the goat’s fat, just as he does with the fat of the peace offering. He will burn the fat on the altar, and it will be a pleasing aroma to the Lord. Through this process, the priest will purify the people, making them right with the Lord, and they will be forgiven. (Leviticus 4:31) Then he must remove all the sheep’s fat, just as he does with the fat of a sheep presented as a peace offering. He will burn the fat on the altar on top of the special gifts presented to the Lord. Through this process, the priest will purify the people from their sin, making them right with the Lord, and they will be forgiven. (Leviticus 4:35)
The priest will then prepare the second bird as a burnt offering, following all the procedures that have been prescribed. Through this process the priest will purify you from your sin, making you right with the Lord, and you will be forgiven. (Leviticus 5:10) Through this process, the priest will purify those who are guilty of any of these sins, making them right with the Lord, and they will be forgiven. The rest of the flour will belong to the priest, just as with the grain offering.” (Leviticus 5:13)
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